Episode 4 – Attraction vs. Attachment (Limerence): When Desire Reveals What's Still Healing
Welcome to The Spirit of Dating, your spiritual dating podcast. Do you mistake chaos for chemistry? Are you falling for the conversation, the possibility, instead of the real person? This week, George Dus unpacks the intense, all-consuming experience of limerence—the difference between real love and fantasy—a key step in achieving conscious relationships.
Through the story of Olivia and "Ethan," George reveals how deep text-based intimacy often creates a fantasy that fades the moment you meet in person. He explores how this phenomenon is tied to attachment styles relationships and the core of self-love and emotional safety. This episode teaches you to spot the distortion in masculine and feminine energy that leads to the painful anxious-avoidant dynamic, helping you choose presence over potential.
Practical Takeaways
- Learn the core emotional wound that Limerence is trying to heal through fantasy.
- Discover the key "Screenshot Test" for your most urgent text messages.
- Why does calm feel 'boring' when you're used to drama, and how can you rewire this conditioning?
- The exact ratio of text time to in-person time that proves you're building a real connection.
- How the wounded masculine performs and the grounded masculine proves worth through action.
- The essential practice for dating someone who is actually calm and consistent.
Chapters (Timestamps)
(00:00) – Intro
(04:11) – The Story
(13:53) – Spirit Lens
(18:35) – Polarity Lesson
(26:36) – Self-Awareness & Practice
(32:00) – Truth Telling
(35:39) – Practical Takeaway
(37:52) – Closing
(39:51) – Spirit Whisper
(40:03) – Outro
📚 Referenced Frameworks
- Limerence (Dorothy Tennov)
- Tarot: The Knight of Cups Reversed
- Attachment Theory: The Anxious-Avoidant Pairing
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