Episode 5 — The Testing Game: When Trust Feels Safer Than Control | Spirit of Dating
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Do you ever catch yourself texting slower, pulling back a little, or dropping hints to see how someone reacts? This week, George Dus explores the testing game—those subtle protective behaviours that feel like safety but quietly erode real connection.
Through a story many will see themselves in, George reveals why testing often starts long before a relationship becomes serious, how it impacts emotional safety, and why it keeps even the best connections stuck in uncertainty.
He also unpacks the energetic shift that occurs when we stop managing outcomes and start letting ourselves be seen.
If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I sabotage something good?” or “Why does calm connection feel unfamiliar?”—this episode offers the clarity you’ve been craving.
Practical Takeaways
- What emotional testing actually is—and why it happens even with good partners
- How testing shows up differently in masculine and feminine energy
- A simple pause technique to break testing cycles before they do damage
- How to communicate uncertainty without turning it into a test
- Ways to build internal safety so trust feels less threatening
Chapters (Timestamps)
(00:00) – Intro
(02:26) – The Story
(09:23) – Spirit Lens
(12:23) – Polarity Lesson
(15:52) – Self-Awareness & Practice
(21:00) – Truth Telling
(24:27) – Practical Takeaway
(27:39) – Closing
(29:41) – Spirit Whisper
(29:54) – Outro
📚 Referenced Frameworks
This episode touches lightly on:
- Trust & emotional safety
- Polarity and nervous-system dynamics
- Attachment patterns (non-clinical, practical lens)
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What Happens Next – Tyler Edwards
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